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How to Create Goals That Get YOU Fired Up

The definition of “fired up” means to cause someone to feel passionate or excited about something. Don’t you want to feel passionate and excited about the goals you set in your life?

To get yourself fired up about your goals, you need to find out what is going to light that fire under you. Want to know how to do that? Keep reading…

How do you figure out what goals you want to set? Or do you even want to set goals? It’s easy to get discouraged sometimes when scrolling through your social media accounts and seeing what everyone else is doing. Do you feel like you’re not keeping up with the Joneses? Here is a secret: You are an individual with unique interests. How you spend your time and what you decide to achieve should be specific to you…and only you…because you are a one-of-a-kind. That is what makes you so valuable.

Discover What Gets You Energized

Take out your journal, a notebook, or a piece of paper and write down the answers to the following questions to get you started on this journey:

  • What do you find yourself writing about and engaging with on Facebook and other social media sites?
  • What do I think is most important to ME?
  • What do I get excited about when I’m talking to someone?
  • Which links am I clicking on to “learn more” about when surfing the internet?
  • What activities bring me the greatest joy?

Don’t compare yourself to others or go looking at someone else to answer these questions. There are no right or wrong answers. It’s best to be completely honest with yourself. Love who you are!

What Are Your Unique Talents and Skills?

It’s easy to list out all of the talents that your friends and family have. We sometimes get smitten when we see their lovely pictures of beautiful decorated cookies, snorkeling trips around the world, or marathon medals. Don’t get caught up in FOMO (fear of missing out). Let’s be honest, these things may not excite you…and in some cases may make you break out in sweat or have an anxiety attack just thinking about having to do them.

If you find sitting at home with the TV on and embroidering, doing a puzzle, reading a book, decorating cookies, or painting gets your heart warm and fuzzy, then by all means embrace that activity do what you enjoy doing.

Let’s take that paper or notebook back out. Make a list of the things that you enjoy doing. It doesn’t matter how good you are or not. The more you do something, the better you get. This is just a brainstorming session. Don’t caught up in the details of whether or not you have time right now or you whether you have the money. The only thing you’re doing right now is putting pen to paper…or fingers to the keyboard if you’re doing this on a computer. The sky is the limit when you’re dreaming of your best life.

Putting It All Together

Take some time to go over the above lists. Is there anything you want to add? Is there anything upon reflection you decide doesn’t bring you joy? How can you get fired up when you focus on things that don’t excite you?

Now is the time to decide on a goal or two. Don’t try to focus on too many things at once. Get one thing accomplished before you go on to the next.

Try to be specific on what you want to accomplish. Do you want to try 15 new recipes? Do you want to re-organize your craft room or pantry closet? Do you want to knit all of your grandkids blankets? Do you want to visit all seven continents?

What Makes Me Happy

I took this journey for myself a few years back. I found that I had a number of ideas and activities that energized me.

1. Being a Positive Energy in the Lives of Those I Care About:
I grew up in an environment of negativity that produced a lot of self-doubt and self-esteem issues. I always knew that when I was an adult, I wanted to encourage others and help them to realize that what makes them unique is what makes them valuable. You are AWESOME just the way you are!!! This blog was created with this in mind.

2. Travel–Especially Disney Travel:
I love to travel. Our family hasn’t always had the money for it, so we would scrimp and save until we had the money. I still don’t have a smart phone because I’d rather the money spent on a trip. Our family enjoys traveling to new places, but Disney is my “happy” place. Whether I’m at Disneyland, Disney World, or on a Disney Cruise, I find myself acting like a happy little kid.

3. Quilting:
I found my joy for quilting at some point in my 30’s. I enjoy the mathematics (I know that sounds crazy) and logic involved in creating my own patterns and blocks. The feel of the fabric between my fingers can calm me down in seconds.

4. Cross Stitching:
I learned to cross stitch back in high school. It can be very therapeutic to sit down, turn on some quiet music, and just begin stitching. There is something exhilarating about watching a picture emerge with each new stitch.

Goals That Can Really Get You FIRED Up

Believe it or not, research shows that when we work towards a cause greater than ourselves, we find ourselves feeling even more fulfilled and purposeful. Find ways to combine what you love with making the world a better place. I promise you won’t regret it. Here are some examples of past goals I’ve had:

  • In 2010 I had a goal to make 10 quilts in 2010 for charity. These quilts ended up going to a bereavement camp for children who had lost a loved one to cancer.
  • I have been through the training to be a volunteer for the Make a Wish Foundation. Over 50 percent of the wishes granted for Make a Wish are trips to Disney…I think I know a thing or two about that. In addition, we donate to Make a Wish whenever we can.
  • I have cross stitched quilt blocks for Love Quilts USA.
  • One year I cross stitched personalized hand towels for each of my sister’s family members.
  • One year when my nephews and nieces were teenagers, I made it a goal to have them over for a game night or movie night at least once a month. I wanted to keep in touch with them and be sure they knew how much I loved them each individually. It’s been over a decade, and they still love coming over for game nights. We laugh…so…hard playing games together.

Take a moment now to write down one thing you want to do…just one…big or little. Post it somewhere you can see it and get fired up about it. You are awesome!

My Word of the Year for 2019 to Help My Tiara Twinkle

I’ve noticed that this year there seems to be a focus on a word for the year rather than big goals to be accomplished. Maybe it’s just a fad and next year will be something else. It did not take me long to figure out the word I wanted to focus on this year: “PRODUCTIVITY”. I have found myself spending way too much time this past year on things that don’t add twinkle to my tiara. This year, I hope that will change and at the end of the year, I can look back on my 2019 tiara and admire all the bling I’ve been able to add to it.

2019 Word of the Year

Last week I sat down and listed all of the things that I do that don’t produce results that get me closer to what I want to accomplish in the coming year. It sounds easy, but it was difficult being honest with myself. I rated each item on my list by how much time they were taking up and how much I enjoyed doing them. I decided to cut one of these things every week for the next 12 weeks. I know myself too well to know that I would rebel against myself if I tried to cut them all out at once.

Okay, so maybe I listen to wayyyy too many Disney and motivational podcasts. I try to tell myself that I do other things while I listen to them, but if I’m being honest with myself, I know that doing two things at once really slows me down. Did I say how hard it is being honest with myself?

A second place I knew that I needed to cut back on was the time I spend checking social media and e-mails. I have set four times during the day and evening to check e-mails. I need to check them a bit more often than Facebook just to be sure I’m not missing anything important for work. I have also unsubscribed from a lot of e-mail lists over the past week so I don’t get so many every day.

As far as social media goes, for the time being I have decided to check only twice during the day. It’s difficult because I love to see what everyone is up to and how their families are. Unfortunately, often my feed is filled with things that are far too distracting. When I get some time, I’ve got to get better and changing the settings in Facebook so that my feed looks more indicative of what I want to see.

By far the largest thing I have decided to let go of this year is my travel business. I am keeping my licenses and certifications current so I can still book family and close friends. I love to help people plan their vacations, but I don’t like being on call 24/7 for clients. The amount of time spent working on the website, keeping up on all the cruise and tour specials going on, and deadlines for clients just wasn’t fun. Instead, I will increase the amount of time spent on my transcription business. I’ve been doing it for so long and love the content which I get to work on all the time. It’s definitely a win-win for me this year.

I am really excited to see what the coming year brings. I have already watched what I can get done in a day go up significantly as I have eliminated just a few things that I was doing without even thinking. I am keeping track of everything I get done and taking the time to celebrate the little things. I am seeing a few more jewels in my tiara already. Baby steps are all the bling in 2019!!!

Getting to Know Me

Congratulations! You’ve found my first post. This post is to help you get to know me a little bit better and why I have created the Twinkling Tiara Society.

You may think that wanting to start a group with tiaras means that I must love jewelry. The thing is, I’m not a big jewelry person…at all. I have always treasured people and experiences over things. But…there is just something about a tiara that makes me want to cheer and walk a little taller. I can’t explain it. The bling…the bright jewels (real or costume)…it gives me the feeling that maybe I’ve done something extraordinary. I’ve come to the realization that in life, all the things I accomplish, big or little, is like a jewel in my tiara. My tiara is different from everyone else’s. It’s built on my unique gifts, talents, and accomplishments.

My Goofy Family

I am 40-something at the moment. I have been married for 30 years to an awesome husband. If you’ve come here from my quilting blog, you’ll know that my husband likes to think of himself as a big Goofy–yes, I mean silly, but also the character Goofy of Disney fame. He is happy-go-lucky, positive, funny, and keeps our life filled with activities. Together, we both enjoy traveling…especially to the Disney parks. As I mentioned earlier, we treasure experiences and people over things.

Quilts

A little over 10 years ago, as my son was getting ready to graduate, I went through a mini mid-life crisis. I began to wonder about what the next stage of my life would hold. I needed to find meaning or purpose in my life. I did some soul searching and discovered there are two things in my life that I should focus on: 1) Being a cheerleader to my friends and family; and 2) Using my love of sewing to make the world a better place by creating things like quilts and pillowcases to be donated. I began to realize the importance for me to use the gifts and talents I’ve been given to create a more positive world for others.

So here we are…it’s January 2019 and a new year has begun. I continue to work in the career that I’ve been doing for almost 15 years and love. But the yearning to start Facebook group to support an ever-growing community of friends and family has taken hold in me. So feel free to join our Facebook group. Our rules are simple: 1) Post about the successes and accomplishments in your life; 2) Pay it forward by giving positive and supportive comments to others in the group–you know, things like “that looks great,” “that’s amazing,” “congratulations,” and “kudos”; and 3) No discussions of politics or religion.

So let’s get this journey started and let our tiaras sparkle!